Sunny Tuesday! I don’t know about you, but the sun puts me in such a good mood! Anyone else? I thought today would be a good day to blog about a topic I have yet to talk about on the blog, the negative Nancy’s of the world. I try to be upbeat and fun on the blog, but I am also honest. I do realize life is not all rainbows and butterflies, but I try not to dwell on the negative.
There are certain topics I keep off the blog due to their controversial nature. Sure, I love a little good natured debating, but I try to be careful when it comes to certain things. I am not out to hurt people’s feelings. If you ask me a question, I will be honest, but I never want anyone to feel bad about themselves after reading my blog.
With that being said, I don’t ever want to feel bad about MYSELF by reading your comments. I have been very lucky so far, and haven’t really had to deal with nasty comments (you guys are awesome, by the way!) I don’t know why some people feel the need to say rude and unkind things, regardless of how “true” they may be. I like to think of it like this: When I read someone’s blog, it’s like I am their “guest” and I am not going to go disrespect someone in their own “home” when I am stopping by as a guest.
There is ONE exception to my rule, and here it is: If the blogger asks a direct question and is wanting feedback. That is the only time I would possibly ever think about saying something that the blogger may not like, but even then, it’s questionable and totally taken on a case by case basis.
So….this topic leads me to my question. How do YOU handle the “not so nice” that stop by your “home?” Some people choose to delete the comment so that no one sees/it never existed. Some people block the commenter as spam. Some people leave the comment and kill the writer with kindness, and others choose to rip them a new one (that is, if your other awesome commenters haven’t already done so for you!)
It really is a delicate situation, and as a blogger, I think it is important for you to be proactive, and think about how you personally would handle the situation should it arise. Don’t wait until it happens and you answer out of anger, hurt feelings, etc.
One thing I am personally working on is not being so sensitive. I have dealt with several situations in the past few years, most dealing with online people, that have left me feeling hurt and upset. I tend to dwell on the situation, run it over in my head, and try and figure out what it is I did wrong, why this person doesn’t like me, what I could have done differently. Then I get frustrated with myself for letting it ruin my day and upset me. I am slowly growing thicker skin though, and trying to focus on the fact that even if I have one or two people that DON’T like me, I have a ton of other friends/family etc. that DO love me, and care about what I have to say. Sometimes it is easier said than done, but I am REALLY trying to take the high road and laugh things off.
Honestly, I feel a little sorry for people who feel like they have to come out and be mean for some reason, or be passive aggressively mean. They are obviously sad with their life in some way, bored, or jealous, and definitely not happy with their own life if they are busy torturing you! So, chin up! If someone (in real life, or online) says something not so nice to you, be prepared with a response, and be prepared with how you are going emotionally handle it! Just remember you are loved, and this will pass!
QOTD: How do you handle negative comments, either on your blog or in real life?